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Books I Don't Love, But Feel Like I Should
I love reading, there’s no doubt about it. It’s always been one of my favorite things. I do have some particular tastes, which you can read about in my blog on what makes a “good” book. I also have a list of my favorite books and recommendations if you are interested.
Unfortunately, not everything we read will be our favorite book. The novels below are some that I have, in fact, read, but do not care for.
Many of them, though, are books that have historically been well-loved favorites by many people! It is for this reason that I always feel a tinge of regret that I don’t like them. They are not in any particular order.
Things Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe
Brief Synopsis: To be honest, the plot of this novel is very complicated. I don’t even feel comfortable trying to sum it up in a few sentences! So I will let SparkNotes do the talking on this one.
Overall Impression:This is actually one of the first books I remember disliking. I read it when I was taking introductory composition my senior year of high school, and struggled every bit of the way to finish. I was not really interested in the plot, and I think there are a lot of intricacies and larger discussions I probably missed as an inexperienced reader who hadn’t really learned to read critically. The plot is also very complicated, as you can see in the link above, and I don’t think I had the tools or interest to really get involved in figuring it out.
Romeo & Juliet by William Shakespeare
Brief Synopsis: This play has been a small part of most of our lives since high school when we all got assigned to read it. A classic play written by the famous playwright William Shakespeare about two feuding families: the Capulets & the Montagues. Juliet Capulet & Romeo Montague “fall in love” despite the feud. In order to be together, Juliet fakes her own death (because this is a logical conclusion). When Romeo finds her, he actually commits suicide. Juliet wakes up and she commits suicide because she can’t be with Romeo. By the way, did I mention this is all over a matter of 3 days? At least after these tragedies occur, the families agree to stop feuding.
Overall Impression: Look, Shakespeare was a master of words and brought a lot of great new words and ideas into the world; BUT, this story is about two teenagers who commit suicide because they can’t be together after 3 days. Definitely not my idea of a great love story.
Lord of the Flies by William Golding
Brief Synopsis: It’s war time, and a group of boys survives a plane crash and live alone on an island. They form a society, with all that entails, and it highlights the issues present in all societies, as well as how savage people can ultimately be. They are eventually rescued before one of the main leaders, Ralph, is killed.
Overall Impression: I wasn’t mature when I read this book. I was in high school. But my lasting impression was utter boredom and dislike. I didn’t connect to it on any level, which is part of what draws me into a book. Even though I feel as though I should read this novel again to see if it was immaturity driving my dislike, I really just don’t see the draw here.
The Hobbit by J.R.R. Tolkien
Brief Synopsis: Like many other epic fantasies, this tale follows the adventures the main protagonist, a hobbit named Bilbo Baggins, as he becomes a “burglar” helping a bunch of dwarves take back their home. Mind you, hobbits are not creatures that like adventures, so it is very abnormal for Bilbo that he ends up battling a dragon, visiting kingdoms of elves, and more.
Overall Impression: I love these movies! I have watched them about a thousand times! But the description in the book is just too thick for me. I’ve tried several times to read this and I’m always overwhelmed by the minutiae.
Game of Thrones by George R.R. Martin
Brief Synopsis: This fantasy epic is hard to sum up in just a few lines! All of the typical fantasy arcs take place: heroes, villains, overthrow, war… and most people you come to love and root for as a reader die.
Overall Impression:Martin’s prose is great. I actually really like his writing style. There are just way too many characters and subplots for me to follow. I liked the show! So I expected to like the book; however, it’s just not my cup of tea.
Wuthering Heights by Charlotte Bronte
Brief Synopsis:This novel is purported to be love story of Heathcliff (an orphan) and Catherine Earnshaw. They flirt with the idea of love, but Catherine chooses to marry another man despite her feelings for Heathcliff. The story is told from the memory of a housekeeper who lived through the tempestuous times and is now relating the events to the current tenet.
Overall Impression: It took me 3 tries to read this all the way through, and I had to buy a fancy edition to bribe myself. The prose is beautifully written, but the people in the book are terrible! For something that’s been hailed as one of the greatest love stories ever told, I was expecting a lot more. If you’re expecting a fairy tale ending (I see you, Jane Eyre), you will be disappointed.
Ulysses by James Joyce
Brief Synopsis: Who the heck knows? But really, it’s supposedly follows (loosely) the plot of Homer’s Odyssey. Encyclopedia Britanica describes the novel as, “Stylistically dense and exhilarating.” People far smarter and more dedicated than I were able to figure this one out.
Overall Impression: I tried to read this in grad school - we were reading it for a class - and I didn’t understand one bit of it. Now, to be fair, I was extremely overextended that semester, so I might not have paid as close attention to the smaller details as I could have. That being said, nothing about this book drew me it. Period.
To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee
Brief Synopsis: This novel is told from the point of view of a young girl, Scout, whose father is a lawyer in a small Southern town during the 1930s. The father is a lawyer who is defending an African American man who is being accused of raping a Caucasian woman even though he couldn’t have possibly done it.
Overall Impression: This is another book I read as a young adult. My biggest memory of this book isn’t necessarily bad, but definitely bored. I do feel like this is one I have a chance of liking as an adult, because when I was younger, I don’t think I picked up on all of the intricacies and bigger conversations surrounding it. The last time I picked it up (maybe a year ago?), however, I just didn’t get into it.
Dracula by Bram Stoker
Brief Synopsis: The novel is set in the 1800s, largely in Transylvania. Lawyer Jonathan Harker travels to a castle for a real estate transaction with Count Dracula and immediately becomes aware of the creepy vibe in the surrounding town. As it turns out, Count Dracula is a vampire! So, when Harker escapes and goes back to England, naturally he rallies a team, led by Professor Van Helsing, to go kill Dracula...Spoiler alert, after a lot of other deaths and cross-country travel, Van Helsing’s team does end up killing Dracula.
Overall Impression: This book is actually very creepy! The prose is well-written, but I do not tend to enjoy books that give me the heebie-jeebies. Because let me tell you, Dracula has been majorly Hollywood-ized! He is way creepier in his original prose form. Not to mention, there’s a lot of death & vampires in the novel (to be expected), which is not really what I like to read about in general.
The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn by Mark Twain
Adventures of Huckleberry Finn
Brief Synopsis: The title pretty much gives this one away, on the surface at least. The book follows a young boy named Huckleberry Finn as he goes on many adventures down the Mississippi River. But who can forget Jim, a runaway slave who accompanies Huckleberry, or the other cast of memorable characters they meet along the way.
Overall Impression: I read this book when I was a young adult, and I did not connect with the characters very well. I remember laboring to finish the book, and being glad when it was done. The characters are very memorable! So it has that going for it, but Twain’s prose is not my cup of tea. I am sure that I also missed the bigger racial and controversial undertones of the novel when I was reading it, so perhaps it could mean more now that I have critical reading skills (like Things Fall Apart & To Kill a Mockingbird...is there a pattern here?)
BONUS!
World War Z: An Oral History of the Zombie War by Max Brooks
Brief Synopsis: In this zombie apocalypse book, the living have finally won the war over the living dead (zombies) after 10 long years. The man who wrote the final war effects report gathered many first hand stories of those who fought the war.
Overall Impression: I am not a fan of zombies or apocalypse type stories to begin with, but I was assigned this novel for a class. In general, I like the oral history aspect, but zombies kind of freak me out! I couldn’t finish the book because I was in college and mainly reading at night before I went to sleep...with the effect of having nightmares about zombies under my bed. I do know people who like the post-apocalyptic world in books, and it seems to be of decent quality in that respect? The movie was decent, as well. But, I don’t much enjoy having zombie nightmares.
Do you love these one or more of these books? Make the case and convince me to retry or reread! I would love to read a book with a new perspective in mind.
10 Excellent Books to Read This Year
UPDATED AUGUST 2020
There are so many books in the world today, especially with the innovation of e-books! I try to vary what I read both by genre, author, and length in an effort to see what the world has to offer. I admit, though, that overall, I tend to prefer fiction. If you're interested in knowing more about the specifics, check out my blog on what makes a book "good."
My academic background is in literature, so, as you can imagine, we spent a lot of time reading the “classics,” which often includes books by a slim canon of authors. There's not much diversity in the classical canon, at least not in my experience. It was refreshing in grad school to hear from so many of my peers who have been reading other things for years! And from my professors who study more diverse writing and writers for a living.
One of my favorite feelings is finding a new book or author I adore. If an author can interest me in one book, I will read the rest. It’s even better if someone has recommended something to me, because then I have someone to share my excitement with when I absolutely love the book and am sad I finished it.
The novels below are some of the absolutely adore sort and ones that I would wholeheartedly recommend. They are not in any particular order.
East of Eden by John Steinbeck
East of Eden
Brief Synopsis
This epic and complicated novel focuses on the brothers Charles and Adam Trask and their tumultuous relationship, which is supposed to resemble that of the biblical figures of Cain & Abel. Adam Trask’s sons, Aron & Cal, end up having a similar relationship, too. Essentially, all of the men are jealous in thinking that their father loved the other brother more. This cycle is broken - tragically - at the end of the novel.
Overall Impression
This is the first Steinbeck novel I read, and I loved it from page one. I love the description and the way Steinbeck writes. It’s a long haul, and it took awhile to read, but something about the whole realistic but fictional world Steinbeck creates is enchanting.
Gone with the Wind by Margaret Mitchell
Gone With the Wind, 1st Ed.
Brief Synopsis
This expansive novel follows the story of southern belle Scarlet O’Hara through and after the Civil War. The war tests her wits & strength, and she learns many lessons in life and love along the way.
Overall Impression
From the first time I picked this novel up in high school, I loved it. I love the description and characters, which is important since the book is over 1,000 pages long! A note, though: there are some problematic descriptions and a romanticized view of slavery that I did not pick up on when I first read it. I do love the story, but I don’t at all think it’s a realistic view of many pieces of the Reconstruction era.
The Physick Book of Deliverance Dane by Katherine Howe
The Physick Book of Deliverance Dane
Brief Synopsis
This novel flips back and forth between the present day story of Connie Goodwin - a PhD candidate who is working on her History dissertation research - and the 1690s when the Salem witch trials were taking place. When tasked with cleaning out her grandmother’s house during the summer, Connie finds a mysterious piece of the past that leads her to find surprising, and dark, history. She might be related more closely related to the trials than she initially thought.
Overall Impression
The was Katherine Howe’s first book, and I’ve read every other book she’s written since. Connie’s character resonates with me, since I am familiar with the graduate school process, and I enjoyed watching the story unfold through Connie’s usually careful eyes. The whole novel is very much a growing experience for her, and I liked watching that occur. I also like that the story flips back and forth between present day and historical. That almost always intrigues me.
Anne of Green Gables by Lucy Maud Montgomery (Books 2 & 3 are also good)
Anne of Green Gables
Brief Synopsis
Anne Shirley, an orphaned girl in Canada, finally finds her forever family. The books tell the tale of her adventures and mishaps during childhood, as well as on through her adulthood in the later part of the series.
Overall Impression
This is my immediate go-to when I need a feel good happy book. There are very few characters that I can think of who are as pure and just plain enjoyable as Anne Shirley. The 1985 film series with Megan Follows as Anne is also great!
Harry Potter by J.K. Rowling (The Entire Series)
Harry Potter series
Brief Synopsis
Harry Potter learns, at 11 years old, that he is a wizard! He’s not just any wizard, either, but a very famous one who survived a murder attempt from one of the most powerful dark wizards of all time when he was just a baby. He’s raised by his “muggle” (non-magic) aunt & uncle, and the 7-book series follows his mishaps and heroism as he goes through magic school.
Overall Impression
I love the entire book series (and the films!). I’ve read them all the way through probably at least 5 times. J.K. Rowling created one of the most magical worlds I’ve ever found. The first book, The Sorcerer’s Stone, was published in 1997, and the seventh and final book, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows finished the series in 2007. I remember the night it came out because my dad took me to the midnight release!
The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald
The Great Gatsby
Brief Synopsis
Nick Carraway recalls the events of the summer he lived next to Jay Gatsby, a self-made millionaire. Carraway recounts the wild and mysterious things he learns about Gatsby, and what he learns from his friend before Gatsby’s untimely demise.
Overall Impression
Full disclosure: I read this in college, for a class, and loved it; BUT, if I had read it in high school like a lot of people I know, I don’t think I would’ve liked it because I wouldn’t have been able to look at it critically enough. I like the prose, but I also like Carraway’s voice - can we trust him? We don’t really know, but we want to. I also like that Fitzgerald starkly questions the idea of the “American dream.” To clarify, he doesn’t promote the idea that it doesn’t exist, but he does point out the intricacies of social class and the things people do to live/achieve this “dream” that no one talks about.
The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz
The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao
Brief Synopsis
Oscar de Leon, also known as Oscar Wao in the book, is a huge sci-fi/fantasy nerd who dreams of falling in love. His family is from the Dominican Republic, and he really finds himself when he visits there one summer. His family always encourages him to get out of his shy shell, meet some girls, and do normal “boy”/”man” things. When he does, though, it’s not what they expect, and ends very badly for him.
Overall Impression
I really liked this book because Diaz’s writing is very engaging. He does a great job crafting Oscar’s voice. But also, how many times is being a nerd portrayed as a good thing? It definitely is in this book! Oscar’s true nerd self is much better than the stereotypical “man” self he tries to be at the end of the novel. His attempt to be someone he’s not is his ultimate downfall in the end, and I like that Diaz really dives deep and gets at the intricacies of Oscar’s view of his own masculinity. Nerds rule the world!
12 Collections & The Teashop by Zoran Zivkovic
12 Collections & "The Teashop"
Brief Synopsis
This book is called a mosaic novel, which means that it is comprised of 12 brief pieces of writing that all relate to each other. The patterns and links between each of these odd characters is what helps the reader put together some semblance of a meaning from the novel. “The Teashop” is a short story included at the end of the work. It is a story about a simple trip to a tea shop with magnificent storytellers...or is it?
Overall Impression
I bought this book because “The Teashop” is, hands down, one of my absolute favorite short stories ever, and the novel was just a bonus. The short story is just a really fun read. It’s just real enough to make you think it could happen, but just fantastical enough to question whether it could. The mosaic novel interesting because the work is short, less than 100 pages, but you really have to read it more than once to understand the connections and figure out what’s going on. I’ll say this, the characters are fascinating, and the whole book is very purple. You’ll never read anything quite like this book, that’s for sure.
The Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern
The Night Circus
Brief Synopsis
A black and white circus travels around, mysteriously appearing in towns and staying briefly before disappearing into the night to the next town. The circus is only open at night, and features real magic! It’s also the scene of the ultimate battle of two magicians who each have a “player” who doesn’t know s/he is being groomed from the time s/he is young to play the ultimate magical game. The two players face-off and beat the odds. No one wins the game.
Overall Impression
I love a lot of books that have magic because they are mysterious and go outside of the “normal” world we live in. The Night Circus is excellent and I have read it several times. Morgenstern has quite a knack for weaving little pieces into a full narrative without giving anything away.
Emma by Jane Austen
Emma
Brief Synopsis
Emma is from a well-to-do family and loves meddling in other people’s love lives. Little does she know that she is in love, too! With whom might surprise you, and it definitely surprises her.
Overall Impression
Emma is my favorite Jane Austen novel. Yes, I said it. It comes in just above Pride & Prejudice for me, although I love that one as well. The novel discusses love in a very different way, but still with memorable characters. Emma is one smart cookie, and very observant, but when it comes to figuring out her own love life she is clueless. And for the record, I think Emma and Mr. Knightley are a great match despite the age difference.
BONUS!
Half Broke Horses by Jeanette Walls
Half Broke Horses
Brief Synopsis
Walls tells the story of her grandmother, Lily Casey Smith, who lived during the early 1900s. Lily's life is full of unexpected adventures, survival through extremely tough times, and a never failing can-do attitude.
Overall Impression
This book was amazing! I love the voice that Walls creates for her grandmother and mother. It's almost magnetic. You don't know what's going to happen next, but you have to turn the page and find out. It's also look into the lives of ranchers and survivors of hard times that many people in our generation don’t know about or understand. Quite refreshing.
Don’t see your favorite book? Send me an email & convince me why I will love it! I love recommendations & talking books with others who enjoy them.
6 Organic Ways to Grow Student Confidence
As a college instructor, one of the most important things I do is work to ensure that my students come out of my class confident in their ability to write and conquer their other classes. Confidence and self-efficacy work hand in hand on this.
I began my teaching career at Ball State University, and was blessed beyond belief to have incredible mentoring that really helped me figure out what my priorities are for my students. I almost immediately made fostering confidence a purposeful goal in my teaching partially because of my own experiences and partially because of what I saw in my students. Being confident in writing is a major pain point for so many people.
Every semester, without fail, at least 85% of my students answer their first day survey (one of the activities I use to begin creating open dialogue) that they are “not good” at writing or writing “isn’t their strong suit.” This was true at Ball State, and it continues to be true at Ivy Tech Community College where I teach now.
Instructors at four-year universities and community colleges alike genuinely care about student confidence, but no one seems to be sure how to discuss it or change what we all see. My colleague and I did a study on this in graduate school wherein a majority (57%) of our survey respondents did discuss confidence in some way in the classroom, but the other 45% did not. We didn’t know whether this came from it not being a major concern or not knowing how to begin that discussion.
Growing and discussing confidence in the classroom can be tricky for a number of reasons. In the beginning of the semester, I never know what experiences students have had with writing (good or bad), or anything about them academically. I don’t know what’s going on in their personal lives that could be affecting them in the classroom, or what changes throughout the semester unless they tell me.
Writing is also much more subjective than math or science where there often is only one truly correct answer. As English teachers, we tend to get a more personal look at our students because many submit writing based on experiences, which can be raw and emotional.
So how are you supposed to be able to grow student confidence in your classroom when you don’t know anything about them and there is more than one right way to write? Good question!
Below are 7 practices I actively utilize in my classes every semester that WORK.
Learn their names, and quickly
This is critical. I try to learn all of their names by the second week of classes; however, if you’re teaching a 4-5 class load, this might take you additional time. That’s a lot of names!
This helps for a couple of reasons.
You might be the only teacher that student has who knows their name & it shows you care.
Often in writing and composition classes, we hear some very personal information due to the nature of the beast. We ask students to write about things that matter to them, and sharing those things with a teacher is scary!
When you know their name quickly, it grows the relationship beyond “student and teacher” to “student and person who is my teacher.”
The major difference here is the person aspect. You were a person before you were a teacher, and that’s important because they are a person too. A person is more approachable than the title of teacher, so students are more likely to come to you for help when they need it.
Have a discussion about confidence
This seems to be the crux for a lot of instructors I’ve talked to about it. How does one talk about confidence without asking students to share out loud in class? That could be both unnerving and uncomfortable for students who are already worried about it.
I begin the “discussion” at the beginning of the semester in two ways.
I tell my students up front on the first day that I know that writing is hard and it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. We are there to learn, first and foremost!
Nothing is perfect, and we need to start where we are at and build on it. Sometimes students have just come out of high school or sometimes they’re coming back after 10 years. You just never know where they are at, and that’s okay.
I have them fill out a survey asking them questions about their writing experiences and confidence level with writing.
I don’t grade these, but it gives me a way to tell where they are without them having to tell me out loud. They also get to look back at these surveys on the last day and reflect on how far they’ve come.
Be transparent about your goals
This might seem obvious, but sometimes students really don’t see past the syllabus. If I don’t tell them what I value for our class time, they won’t know! Everyone values things a little bit differently, and every class has a different set of official objectives, so this piece will be unique to you and your institution.
Your teaching methods and goals drive the class and atmosphere no matter what objectives you’re trying to achieve.
Students value this openness and tend to feel more comfortable asking a question or reaching out for help when they feel like they know what you want and expect of them.
It also makes your life easier when you don’t have to try to remember what you told your students. I believe, and have seen, that honesty and transparency are the best policy.
Be vulnerable & empathetic
This is probably the most important thing, for me, in building student confidence. I tell them some personal things when I introduce myself on the first day: I’m married and have an adorable, crazy little dog. I also tell them that I have another job and what it is.
Above all, I tell them that I was a student not long ago, and I know how hard it is. I really do get it.
My goal here is always to humanize myself and make myself approachable.
I don’t want there to be a time when any of my students can’t ask me a question because they are worried about how I will react! It’s literally my job to answer their questions, so I want to make that as comfortable as possible.
In terms of empathy, it is important (and sometimes very difficult) to try to step back and think like a student in order to gauge the situation.
If a student comes to me in a panic about not being able to get to his/her/their three page minimum, my first response is always to have them explain why they are worried and what their thoughts are.
Sometimes they just need to talk it out, or sometimes they just misunderstood the instructions. Either way, being empathetic to their panic is much more effective than brushing it off.
Always find something positive to say about their writing.
Have you ever gotten a paper where it’s obvious the student just phoned in the assignment? Or that they just completely missed the point of the entire project? I know I have! And sometimes it’s just not a very good paper.
But, here’s the thing.
You and the student both know it’s not the best paper, and the student probably expects a lot of “red ink” and criticism because that’s what has happened in the past.
I always lead any written comments I’m giving with a compliment. Always. Even if that’s about the fact that they remembered page numbers or have a creative title.
If you really want to build their confidence, you don’t want to be just like all the other English teachers who didn’t take a moment to find a compliment.
This isn’t to say that you should make up something or dig with a magnifying glass to find something fantastic; however, students do gain confidence when you recognize that they have done something right, even when you both know the paper wasn’t awesome.
Meet with your students one-on-one multiple times during the semester.
This is a hard goal, mainly because we only have a limited number of days in any given semester. We have 16 weeks to teach them what they need to learn, and we usually need every minute of that!
However hard it is for me, I make sure - every semester - to meet with my students one-on-one at least twice. One time I cancel the class(es) for the week & we do conferences for their research topics.
This is early enough in the semester that we are still new to each other, but after the first project so they know how I operate.
I check in about how their semester is going and just life in general.
The second time, we meet outside of class and I explain my comments on the first draft of their research paper. This way we are there, in person, and they can ask questions where something doesn’t make sense.
I practice all of these in my own classroom, and they have worked. I’ve seen students grow throughout the semester and become more confident in their writing (and as students). There are definitely differences from university to community college, but these practices have worked in both settings.
I will be the first to admit that I am not perfect and I still learn important lessons every semester, without fail. These are simply things I’ve implemented because of what I’ve seen in the classroom.
What do you see in your classroom? What have you noticed or tried? If you teach younger students, would these practices (modified, of course) benefit your classroom?
I’d love to hear your thoughts!
I Love Writing, But...5 Excuses That Hold Us Back From Our Writing
As writers, we love to create. We love the feeling of putting our words on paper, of inspiring others or drawing out emotion, and that feeling of accomplishment when something feels “complete.” But sometimes what we love doesn’t quite translate into what we do.
There are days, weeks, or even longer periods where we simply don’t make time for what we love. I waited years to begin writing again. It was such a long time that I almost forgot I had a writing voice in the first place. I made these choices despite the fact that writing has always been my favorite hobby and biggest talent.
Sometimes we use “busy” as an excuse because we are scared or discouraged.
Sometimes we might be genuinely busy with work, family, or community commitments. There have been several periods when I’ve been in college or grad school working a job or two on the side. There have also been times when I’m working a full time job and adjuncting in the evenings.
Sometimes, though, we use “busy” as an excuse because we are scared or discouraged. I know I am guilty of this. I mean, I made excuses not to write for 7 years! That’s almost a decade. But here’s the thing: I thought about writing. All. The. Time. Perhaps not every day, but certainly every week.
Every time, I told myself at least one of the statements below. Here are some ways that I’ve figured out to fight these excuses (they were always excuses for me) and make time for my writing.
Not enough time
I’m too busy. I don’t have enough time.
This is probably the most “comfortable” fallback of any I’ve ever used to convince myself I don’t need to write. It’s definitely one of the excuses I’ve used the most. I have come to realize, though, that no matter how busy I am, if I can make time for just 10-15 minutes of concentration on my writing, it actually relieves stress. It doesn’t matter if it’s the worst thing I’ve ever written - if I get something down onto the page and it gets me out of my head for a few minutes in an otherwise stressful day, it’s worth it to me.
No matter how busy I am, if I can make time for just 10-15 minutes of concentration on my writing, it actually relieves stress.
I have taken to writing at lunch on especially busy days. If I am in meetings all day or have an abundance of tasks to complete, setting aside 20 minutes (and putting it on the calendar!) to eat my lunch and jot down some thoughts is soothing. When I am done, I feel much more relaxed and ready to take on the rest of the day.
Setting a timer is also helpful when I am extremely busy. This works during lunch when I’m writing, but even more so when I’m at home. Having a time dedicated to something I love, even if it’s just 15-30 minutes when the whole weekend is packed with engagements and responsibilities is invaluable and refreshing.
Family first
Family first. I don't have time.
First, your family is absolutely important! Especially if you have kiddos at home! We don’t have any yet, but from my limited experience, it’s a pretty crazy adventure to undertake, and you might not always be able to just set a 20 minute timer and ignore everything else. Pets and significant others are also a big factor. After a long day of being at work, your spouse might need some TLC. And, I don’t know about your pets, but my dog definitely needs some me time for belly rubs and such when I get home.
You might not always be able to just set a 20 minute timer and ignore everything else.
What has worked for me with a husband and dog is to write when they are asleep. This could be early morning or late at night. Or, sometimes if they are napping on a weekend, right during the middle of the day. This is a way to get some “me” time in with my writing without taking time away from other family-oriented activities.
The other thing that I’ve done is to make my little family part of my process whenever I can! My dog, Charlie, is the best little cuddle bug on gray days when I’m trying to make excuses not to write. He will curl up next to me and take a snooze while I get some writing done. I will often ask my husband a question (usually very random with a “Wait, what?” response) about whether something is plausible or believable. I think this could also work with older kids, if they enjoy being creative and like to try doing what mom/dad do. Help them get started on their own story, or have them draw a picture story.
Inspiration
I don't have inspiration.
Whoa is this familiar! "I don't have inspiration" combined with “I’m too busy. I don’t have time.” is such a powerful deterrent - especially when you tell yourself that over and over again. I get it. Some people just seem to be overflowing with inspiration and always seem to be working on something different. And here you are with half an idea that’s barely even a whole thought.
Hard truth? You know all about yourself and have unique experiences that no one else has had.
But, hard truth? You know all about yourself and have unique experiences that no one else has had. Even if others have gone through something similar, in the end, no one is you! So, start by writing what you know. Write about your experiences, the people in your life, the things you love (or hate), or even things that inspire you. Maybe you have something in your life that doesn’t “look” like an inspiration for expressing yourself, but it might be if you give it a chance.
If you’re thinking that you’re still not inspired by your own life or circumstances, why not think about what you would like to learn? What big questions do you have and how would you answer those right now, at this very moment? How would you go about finding a better answer, if there is one?
My life is boring
I don’t have anything to write about. My life is boring.
How many times have you told yourself that your life is boring and no one cares what small problems you have going on? How many times have you looked at someone else and thought about how exciting their life must be? Even if no one will ever read it, consider writing about your own life. You could do creative nonfiction essays, like my good friend Courtney, or you could fictionalize it like I have. You could even start a journal for complete privacy.
Writing down bits and pieces of your life will become valuable to you at a later time.
Any way you choose, writing down bits and pieces of your life will become valuable to you at a later time. I have journals from when I was a teenager and first time college student and it is a hoot (and most times quite dramatic) to read about my life and feelings at those points in time.
What’s going on in your life right now? What hurts? What makes you happy? When my grandma died 5 years ago, one of the ways I learned to cope with it is to write about her. It was tremendously sad, as we were very close, but it was also cathartic. On the other hand, has anything great happened? Have you had a big milestone, made a life-decision, or perhaps even just made a new friend? Write about it! It will continue to give you joy even as the excitement fades.
Not that good
I’m not that good at writing.
I hear this a lot from my students. For many, there is this constant nagging fear that someone will read their writing, which they are not confident about, and think poorly of them because of it. A note on this from a college English instructor: it’s probably not that bad. I haven’t read your writing (yet), but almost 100% of the time, it’s not as bad as you think. And, if it is, you can always add to it and change it! Good writing is not a one and done activity, it’s a process.
I haven’t read your writing (yet), but almost 100% of the time, it’s not as bad as you think. And, if it is, you can always add to it and change it!
If you are inspired and passionate about something and you want to write about it, no one has to read it! You could keep a journal or write a story and keep it to yourself. If you want to write, you should do it. If you are that worried about it being “bad,” email me and we will talk about it!
No one should feel afraid to express themselves in writing because of something that someone else thinks. Believe me, in the long run, you will regret not writing down your ideas more than you will regret someone telling you it was “bad,” especially when it probably just needed some extra love and attention.
Obviously these are not the only excuses we use. These are simply some I have found most common in my own life, have heard from other writers, and that students have told me when I am teaching.
What are some excuses you have made or reasoning you have used that has stopped you from writing? Did you encounter actual problems or did you use them because you were scared? How did you overcome them? What did you do during times when you couldn’t overcome?
If you’re in one of those periods now, I’d love to chat and help you figure it out! Drop a comment below or email me at rachel@capturingyourconfidence!
The Adventures of Writing a Novel
Have you ever woken up from a dream, and for just a moment you thought it could have been real? That’s how my adventure of writing a novel began.
UPDATED JUNE 2020
Have you ever woken up from a dream, and for just a moment you thought it could have been real? That’s how my adventure of writing a novel began.
In April 2019, I was blessed to celebrate a friend’s upcoming wedding at her bachelorette party. Now these events usually get a “dirty” connotation with all kinds of phallic-shaped objects and sloppy drunken shenanigans, but this (thankfully) was not that kind of party. I met some great women, connected with a few I hadn’t talked to in far too long, and overall had a very pleasant night.
The scenery was idyllic: a remote, hilly area with trees and narrow back roads for miles.
We were all sharing a large cabin in the woods, and there was plenty of space for everyone. The scenery was idyllic: a remote, hilly area with trees and narrow back roads for miles. The cell phone service was poor, and the WiFi was nonexistent, which, despite how it might sound, was a great reprieve from the urge to get online rather than spending time with the ladies around me.
Friends
April 2019
I was overtired when I went to bed, and didn’t sleep well. I never really sleep well under conditions where I’m not familiar with my surroundings, and/or away from my husband and dog.
Typically, with this combination of circumstances, I dream vividly. Not the kind of dream that leads you into a peaceful sleep where you wake up feeling refreshed, but the kind of dream where you feel actively involved and wake up feeling like you lived a different day overnight.
It was all very dramatic.
During this particular dream, there were two people, one young man who seemed familiar in a vague sort of way, and the other a young lady who seemed a lot like me in my younger years. They were both on the younger side of college age. The girl was taking refuge in her university’s library to get away from her problems, and the young man was her friend who found her and came to comfort her. It was all very dramatic.
When I woke up, I shook off the fuzzy feeling from not sleeping well, but that particular moment lingered in my mind. Who was that guy and why did he feel familiar? And that particular moment had definitely not occurred in my life, so why did it feel like a memory?
Amidst the hubbub of having breakfast and packing up my things to leave, I lost track of the scene. I absentmindedly wondered if it would come back to me.
I began the two hour drive home, and it was back.
I began the two hour drive home, and it was back. Crystal clear. A name for the guy, and why he felt familiar. He looked like someone I had recently met, but with the personality of someone I had known for years. It was almost like something out of a movie, that scene from my dream. Or, a really good dramatic book.
I thought about that guy, and that girl, whom I surmise had very similar experiences to me, the entire way home. By the time I hit the highway (we were pretty remote!), both people had a name. By the time I had been driving an hour, they had a story arc together. By the time I arrived home, I had two scenes in a creative work I couldn’t define or say where it was going.
Country Roads
Country roads make for good contemplation!
As soon as I got home, I wrote down the scene I dreamed. It was much more brief on paper than it seemed in my mind: just 425 words. But then, another scene came pouring out. This scene was a little longer, just over 800 words, and is still my favorite scene in the entire piece.
So, there I sat, with about 1,200 words written of this thing I dreamed about. It was the first substantial creative thing I had written in 7 years. SEVEN YEARS. And I wrote 1,200 words in an hour.
The next day I wrote another scene. And so I’ve continued. The longest scene is about 7 ½ pages, and the shortest is just a page. I typically do one scene per sitting, and it’s rarely linear. Now I have 24 scenes with more than 25,000 words. Over this past year I went from nothing to 100+ pages of creative writing.
Words and stories
Before those two scenes, there was just a dream. A movie-esque or dramatic book that took all of 15-20 minutes to write down. The characters have grown organically, and plot twists have come up. Because the girl in my dream felt so familiar, that I am using many of my own experiences, and those of people I know to build her character and those with whom she interacts.
When I first started writing again, I was scared to call it a novel.
When I first started writing again, I was scared to call it a novel. I mean, that’s a pretty lofty goal, right? An average novel is about 100,000 words, give or take depending on the genre, author, etc. But, by the second week of May, when I had 20 pages and in depth character profiles for each main character, I was less timid. By the beginning of June, I was calling it a novel or a book, but only to my close friends. Now, here I am, telling you all about my novel. It’s pretty crazy how fast these things can change.
As it stands, my best friend and confidant who conveniently has a graduate degree in Creative Writing, reads it every few new sections, and has thoroughly enjoyed it. I can’t write it fast enough. Does this boost my confidence? Absolutely! Will there be others who dislike it? Yes! And that’s okay.
So, here I am, a writer, a blogger, a dreamer, on the verge of a novel that I’ve dreamed of writing since I was a child. Words and stories have always been dear to me, and I feel like I have brought back a part of me that was hiding for a long time. Even after a year, it’s been a joyful process, although I know there will likely be frustration along the road.
My process might be unique, but I know I am not the only person who has experienced something like this. I know many amazing writers! What is your story? What pieces of my story would you like to hear as I write my novel?
Find me on social media, drop a comment below, or email me at rachel@capturingyourconfidence.com!
Let’s chat because you, my friend, are on your way to great writing.
What's In a “Good” Book?
When you think about your favorite books, what stands out? Action? Adventure? Romance? Whole new worlds? Do the characters have to memorable? Does the plot have to thrill or mystify you? I love a book that can catch me off guard with a twist.
You probably have a few things you really love in a book. Sometimes you like them so much you might even be willing to put up with a subpar plot to keep learning about the characters or the world they live in. I’ve often felt like the readers I know who love the Lord of the Rings series must be super-readers because they can get through the 2-page long descriptions and still somehow be able to focus on the plot.
Maybe you like these kinds of because you enjoy an escape experience, or because what you’re reading is so unlike your life that you are learning through someone else’s eyes. Maybe you want to have a feel good experience, or maybe you want to be so scared that you and your pet are hiding under your blanket in bed.
Whatever those “good” factors are, they’re important for your experience. You won’t like a book without at least some of these factors. Although I try to keep my mind open, I definitely gravitate towards specific patterns and types of books that I’m generally interested in learning about outside the book.
My Good Factors
Below are the top factors I look for when I’m interested in a book. This list is obviously not exhaustive, but most of the books I read have at least one of the following elements.
Fiction
As a learner, this is actually surprising to me. I’ve often thought that my love of learning would lead to liking nonfiction, but that has never been the case. I’ve always liked being able to read as a bit of an escape from reality.
The escape aspect is why I love magical books like Harry Potter - it’s so different than reality that I enjoy thinking about the differences and the possibilities. I recently read The Rules of Magic and Practical Magic by Alice Hoffman, mostly because I love the movie with Sandra Bullock and Nicole Kidman. The idea that someone could have powers like that in another, but similar world is fascinating.
When I know something is based in reality, I also often feel the need to research other information about the people and setting. So when I know the book is fictional, I don’t feel that pressure to know more - I can just read and enjoy.
Strong Female Character(s)
As a woman, I tend to relate more to female characters than male characters. I understand their experiences more because I’ve lived some of those things. Relating to the characters or having some sort of empathetic understanding is important to me because even if they’re in a different world, they’re still people (I will talk more about this in a little bit).
It’s always a pet peeve for me when a book has a whole cast of characters and not one of them is a woman who shows some sort of actual personality or spunk. Or, there is only one woman character that plays a larger role but is demonized or thought of in a purely negative light. We all see you, Heart of Darkness.
This isn’t to say that all of the books I like need a heroine at the helm, but I mean, jeez. Not all women are passive and gentle creatures. This is sometimes a struggle when I read a work classified as part of the western literature canon or a “classic” because the roles really were different back in the day. And not in a liberating sort of a way.
Spunky females pop up in many of my recommended books blog reads. If you want to read a book with really scandalous women (at the time), you should check out Peyton Place by Grace Metalious.
Historical Aspect
History has always been one of my favorite subjects to learn about, so it’s no surprise that I love books that include an aspect of it. The time periods I am most interested in include: Medieval times, the Civil War, and World War II & the Holocaust.
These time periods are so drastically different from the world I’ve always lived in, so I find it fascinating. These were also times of great tumult and tragedy and I always am just astounded by the atrocities that happened. I continue to be amazed by the fact that there are many things in history that are so awful that it seems like someone should have made them up instead of it being fact.
I particularly like when an author can effectively weave a present day narrative together with a historical narrative. That’s one of my favorite factors in a book, actually. I just finished The Key by Kathryn Hughes that did this really well. One narrative was set in the 1950s and one was set in the early 2000s.
An Actual Conclusion/Ending (Or Known Continuation)
For me to really enjoy a book, it has to have some sort of actual ending - good or bad - or another book to bridge the cliffhanger at the end. I hate it when you’re reading along and all of the sudden the book is done with no sort of resolution and no other books to read.
I don’t find this to be a problem too often because I’ve seen it mostly in books that are sci-fi or fantasy based, but it is really irritating. It almost seems like, in these circumstances, the author just ran out of things to say or something.
“Classic” or “Canonical” reputation
As a student of literature, I do have a personal interest in what most people call the “classics.” These are generally books that have been acclaimed as good and presented as capital “L” literature that’s better than popular fiction.
I enjoy seeing the prose of “the greats,” although I’m a firm believer that we shouldn’t be afraid to be critical of them. As you can see in my blog about Books I Feel Like I Should Love But Don’t, there are many of these books that made the list.
On the whole, though, I like being able to read the book and then contextualize it so that I can see how it would have been taken and understood at the time.
My Avoid Factors
On the other hand, there are some things that just turn you off of a book almost immediately. I’m sure you can probably recall a time when you picked up a book and read the cover summary or the first few pages and put that book right back on the shelf. I have moments like that every time I go to the library!
Maybe it’s missing some or all of your “good” factors. Or maybe it has them but assembled in a way that makes you think “What the heck was that writer thinking?” Maybe you just don’t like certain things.
Below are the top factors I avoid in a book. This list is, again, not exhaustive, but chances are, if a book has one or more of these factors, I won’t like it very well.
Sci-fi & Fantasy Genres
This is kind of disappointing to me, actually! I like movies that are fantasy based, with some sci-fi thrown in, but I really do not like these books too much.
I recently tried an audio book, The Colour of Magic by Terry Pratchett, because I read about it in an article. I sometimes struggle with audiobooks because of boring narration, but this guy is the full package doing different voices and everything. I just can’t get into the book, though! Which is sad because it’s the first of a super long and apparently really cool series.
I just can’t grasp the idea of this world that’s sitting on the backs of four huge turtles floating slowly through space, even in my wildest dreams.
Contemporary Romance Plot
I’m not a racy paperback romance kind of gal. If romance is an offshoot of the main plot, I am fine with it, but you won’t catch me reading any of the (what seems like) thousands of Harlequin romance novels.
The main problem, I think, is that all of it is way over the top. It’s too much. Cute romance is one thing - boy meets girl, you know the kind - but I don’t need anything graphic. Plus, 9/10 times I feel like the situations don’t and wouldn’t happen, so I’m just not into it. It also feels like there are about three types of romance plots that run through every book like this. Not my type of escape!
Bad Writing/Prose
10/10 a problem for me in any book, even if the subject matter is really interesting. I need my sentence structure and vocabulary to be varied!
This is the prime reason I don’t care for any Nicholas Sparks books because his writing is just flat for me. And, although I enjoyed the story of the Twilight series, the writing is just...not good. I’ll say that.
Apocalyptic/Post-Apocalyptic Setting
Like the other genre-type factors, I can’t relate to anything, and I can’t imagine the world ending in any of the ways I’ve seen it in fiction. Zombies? Literal nothing-ness where somehow one or two people have managed to survive? At least there are a variety of different ways people see these events happen, which keeps things interesting.
In particular, Cormac McCarthy’s The Road was troublesome for me, as was World War Z by Max Brooks. I understand, or at least I think I understand, that the point of these books is really about humanity, but survival during end times is not really the kind of humanity I enjoy reading about.
Flat or Irritating Characters
So, I don’t find this to be a problem most of the time, honestly. Or if it is, the other factors outweigh it and I keep reading. But, isn’t it the worst when the character kind of just lives on the page and doesn’t change at all? Or has zero real personality? As a reader, I need to be able to see some kind of growth or changes throughout their arc.
I’m not trying to pick on Twilight again, but Bella Swan? Absolutely a big part of the overall story, and she was written to be that way, but still irritating as heck. Kristen Stewart was criticized like crazy for how she played that role in the films, but guess what? That girl was dead on how Bella was in the books!
Everyone’s reading experiences are different and everyone loves different types of books! That’s why we have such an amazing selection available to us.
What do you think, though? What makes or breaks a book for you? What are your go-to factors or factors you avoid?
I’d love to hear from you!
